because we see ourselves relative to the world and because we see the world as larger than us.
When conditions change, we see it as happening because of us or as an attempt to minimize or harm us.
We feel less because it seems more!
Yes, it can cause you to see yourself as weak, inadequate, insecure, unfairly attacked, rejected, alone, compromised, and to rush to your own defense using whatever means available to you to stop the feelings.
- you may get angry and lash out trying to suppress the new or retain the old
- you may avoid the responsibility, even using chemicals to assist
- you may try to satisfy it without first understanding it, a recipe for burnout
- You may simply give in a let it master you
Yet, change is more naturally a part of life than you may believe, even though it may seem to come as
the volatile or unstable conditions that make a task become new, strange, or difficult.
at work, in academic pursuits, in family conflict, on the road, at leisure as nature’s relentless progress makes your best efforts seem puny or insufficient and familiar routines to become unexpectedly disturbed or displaced
the harsh or unkind word from another person
from a spouse or partner, family, friend, boss, colleague, or any stranger as other people express their differing opinions and perceptions naturally.
a feeling that permeates your body because of
an injury, unidentified pain, or unexpected illness that sidelines you or makes you weak or incapacitated, or just an alteration in mood that cannot be explained
an unexpected or undesired disruption
loss of a job, a marriage (divorce, breakup, death), loss of finances or financial stability, loss of home (sale, foreclosure, fire, theft), loss of academic standing, a promotion to a new and unprecedented responsibility, even a love that’s lost or disenchanted..
I want to show you that it is easier and more gratifying to immunize yourself to change by understanding it and understanding you than it is to find a more powerful way to nullify the change or stifle the feelings.
So you see, it is not the job, or the person or people. It is not your foolishness. It is change and how it affects your job, the person or people who then react – not necessarily to you or at you but within your presence. To deal with these forces, you must first understand how change affects you and them to then affect you.