• Albert de Goias Developer, Author, Advisor

    I researched and developed this formula through a complex series of academic interests and career changes. Mathematics was my first love and deep interest allowing me a scholarship to university. Unable to play the usual sports at school with any competence allowed me to explore swimming and water polo. I became competent though not sufficiently competitive. It, however, allowed me to develop my social exposure at a healthy level. After high school. I joined IBM where I was exposed both to the new (1963) science of computers and also to relate at an international level. I chose to leave after three years and attend medical school because I wanted a basis of traditional professionalism. After medical school, I did not know where to go and tried my hand at psychiatry, neuro pathology, neurosurgery, and finally family practice where I settled – for three years. My interests in research still haunted me, especially when I started to see an increasing number of people in the cosmopolitan center where I worked who were suffering both emotional and physical complaints due to the stresses of relocation, re-integration, new and unknown career and personal stresses. I started to examine these conditions and, through that, met Hans Selye of Montreal and Milton Erickson of Nebraska, both professors interested in the effect of stress on human emotions and physical health. I studied under them and redirected my practice to this area of need.

    At first, I considered change as the main culprit in these disorders as relocation, re-integration, and new stresses have that in common. This encouraged me to add Chaos Theory to my list of interests, an exercise that came easily because of my mathematics background. As a result, I presented the initial conclusions regarding at an international symposium in 1981 at the University of Pittsburgh, and its development one year later by invitation to the International Conference on Modelling and Simulation, University of Pittsburgh. I published a final dissertation in 1989 as the reference book, Understanding Change, referring to the individual’s capacity to adapt to change and survive both mentally and physically.

    My attempts to reach the public and offer this direction took me into the area of interpersonal relationships as the concern that people wanted to manage. Once I started studying it, I realized that all of my academic, professional, and experiential development pointed me toward working with people to understand and manage that most volatile and imposing area of change that everyone has to encounter every day, the change represented by the voluminous thoughts of each other person in the world, those that impact us directly and those with an indirect impact either through other people or their ways of dealing with conditions they share with us.

    As a result I retired my medical license. After all, I was no longer practicing medicine. I was honored to be allowed to retain emeritus status with the College of Physicians and Surgeons. I now enjoy this challenge of guiding people through the minefield of an area that has little precedent, no real research material, and yet impacting each of us in every area of our existence.

  • Andrea de Goias
    Andrea de Goias Researcher/Advisor

    Andrea has made a phenomenal contribution to both the publication of the new book and the delivery of the Understanding Change program. She has used a very eclectic background to challenge some of the ideas proposed by her spouse and partner, Albert, but also to provide opinions on areas that required consideration or a change in approach.

    Andrea grew up in Hungary where she learned under the guidance of a physician father and pharmacologist mother. She developed great interest early in life in philosophy and The Arts and became an avid and knowledgeable contributor to the arguments proposed by the great philosophers whom she studied intently for her undergraduate courses. At that time she developed a keen perception for the place of arts and movies as interactive tools that allowed her clients to see themselves objectively by analyzing characters in any of these elements. Her knowledge of the angst that famous painters, poets, composers and dancers experienced as they went through both the development of their skills into uncharted territory and their method of communicating through those skills gave a totally different perspective on the trials of communicating in all areas of life. Her later development of an application that allowed her to engage people as an addiction counsellor and have them see themselves differently as well as seeing a hope or purpose in life beyond running away into the dissociation chemicals provided thrust her into a different and exciting area of guidance and counselling.

    Andrea enjoys the benefits this gives her for helping her clients communicate better in marriages, helping them expand and develop an interest in more profound activities, and guiding youth to have greater interests that make them proud and capable of interacting with peers at a highly stimulating level goes beyond our wildest dreams. Andrea’s deeply spiritual understanding of life keeps her and her clients focused on more than mere survival or more than mere relating within a physical milieu but into that of understanding and relating to a higher power as both creator and mentor.

    Together, Andrea and Albert collaborated in the production of a revised edition of the book, Understanding Change, which is now directed at the challenge of relating (to a perpetually changing and completely inaccessible source of activity – the thoughts and opinions of the other person).  We both support the self-directed tutorials and give direct counsel at our home to persons wanting to explore more deeply with us.

It is important for us to know how we can expand ourselves to embrace the challenges that the other person introduces rather than impose our own perceptions.

The former allows us to relate where the other person is comfortable, and it makes us the bigger and better person.

The latter allows us to impose our perspective, but it leaves us where we were and not really relating to the other.

Relate with Self-Initiated Discernment, Consideration, and Flexibility.

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