This is a hard question. It is similar to your wife asking if she looks fat in that dress. Nothing you say will be right. First, you must understand that the use of alcohol can be initiated as a way of treating, not only emotional distress, but also physical distress. Thus, it can hide a distortion that existed and create one because of its heavy use. Alcohol, however is a carbohydrate. It is broken down by the liver. Alcoholic problems occur when the amount taken or the pace of taking it exceeds the rate that the liver can break it down. It is the free alcohol in the system that leads to behavioural problems. Therefore, your ability to drink again depends on how much damage you have done to your liver (so the breakdown is too slow for any pace of intake). It also depends on how well you have developed the self-discipline to pace your intake or quantity. In other words, alcohol itself is not the culprit. You are, that is, your ability to consciously determine your intake. Only when that is managed and if achieved before significant damage is already done can a controlled amount be taken. Only you can determine that.
to, the good rule of thumb is to stay away. Though alcohol is not the culprit by itself, it can sufficiently distract or even weaken you causing you to want to go back to the unrestricted use. Therefore, the safe answer is that it is not a good idea.
Medications that affect moods work by stimulating or blocking natural chemicals. For example, SSRIs, the most common mood group of stabilizers today, block the reuptake of natural serotonins. The body has a process called tachyphylaxis that allows it to try to overcome external interference. So, if a medication works, the body’s resistance can create a need for larger doses to have the same effect. Of course, we see the same with common street drugs. And as doses get higher, the body changes internally to compensate for the stimulation (or blockage). The chemicals, common drugs or medications, become an integral part of natural function. The bottom line is that medications that are working must be continued because, if stopped suddenly, the ensuing imbalance can throw the body’s function off-kilter. When you work on recreating natural balance, there will come a time when you will feel in so much better control of yourself that you do not want to continue with the use of foreign chemicals. This can include medications that you no longer need or no longer need at the dosage you had reached. Then, your doctor can advise on how to withdraw.
Emotional issues are specifically feelings, conscious feelings about self. They occur during states of consciousness. Therefore they are not only restricted to disorders of the body. Think of drawing water from a cistern whose size you do not know through a pipe whose bore you do not know into a cup whose capacity you do not know. All you know is that you have received an insufficient amount of water. Do you presume that the bore of the pipe is too narrow, or the cup is too small, or the cistern inadequate… and treat what you think is the matter? When we assume the brain connections that we cannot measure are narrow or compromised (without actually being able to measure and confirm), it is like assuming the pipe is the cause. When we determine that the person is foolish or sick and treat that which we really cannot see, we are guessing that the cup is too small. If they are, medications are definitely necessary. But always remember that depression or addiction can create that effect we see as narrowing of the neurones as much as a narrowing can cause depression or addiction, or toxic anger. So medications may be necessary when the diagnosis can be confirmed that a disorder exists as an underlying cause or even as an effect that must be soothed away. The first may be necessary for life, the second only until true recovery is achieved.
The program we teach is an immense work but it is presented in such logical order that new insights are quickly awakened in you. You do not learn or try to remember what you are taught. Instead, you think as you explore the lessons and perhaps interact with your online advisor. You will not find an aha moment or a series of acts you must do under certain circumstances. Instead you will find that you will do things differently from the beginning. The ideas you form will be yours, only stimulated by the discussions. You will see improvement early but you cannot rush it. You may sometimes want to digest a particular set of ideas many times before moving to the next. Think of it as moving from 1 to 100. You want to be at 100 but you are so far away. Then you get to 2, or 3. To the measure of where you want to get, you have only progressed 1 or 2 percent. Yet, from where you were, you have progressed 100 or 200 percent.
No. We take you along a journey we like to call, “Understanding Change”. It is a discussion on life from a different, more insightful perspective. In short, it attempts to take you away from seeing yourself as a body that is already destined to live and die and into seeing yourself as a soul that is indestructible and immortal. It attempts to show that survival of the body with stagnation of the mind is more destructive than stimulation of the mind even at the expense of the body but with a responsibility to use it, protect it and nurture it.
The World Health Organization reveals that
– everyone will, at some time, be affected by depression, yours or someone close.
– 54% of people will not seek direction for fear they will be seen as having a weakness.
– One in ten people will suffer from depression during their lifetime
– Prescriptions for antidepressants have increased 64 percent between 1996 and 2000
– Psychotherapeutics are the second most dispensed drug (after heart medicines)
– Depression is now the chief cause of disability in the workplace.
– It costs a company about 12% of its payroll.
Recent court decisions have created a legal obligation for employers to provide “psychologically safe” workplaces – which generally means being aware of the mental health of workers and having clear plans in place to address the problem. And what’s more, the way life affects the people around us at work or home will affect how they will relate to us. In short, even if you can function well, you should know how to relate to those around you who may not function well.
This cannot be managed by even the largest team of therapists. Partly because therapists are trained to be the healer… after the problem appears, and partly because the pace of new problems outstrips the number of therapists available. The onus is on YOU to do what is necessary for YOU!
An illness is the distortion of something from a healthy state into one that is abnormal. We once believed that physical health was our most precious attribute. It allowed life and it was complex. So to ‘fix’ it, we needed knowledgeable people with the tools to reach into its complexities. Doctors had that knowledge and access to those tools, and were thus highly regarded. Today, we have been able to break down that complexity, even to the level of the layman. The tools are managed by highly trained technicians. We still see physical life as complex, but now reachable in its complexity.
Physical health is measurable, even if we need these tools. It also is expected to come naturally. So, its distortion is an aberrancy. Something went wrong and changed the natural state. The mind, on the other hand, is not measurable. WE do not know what the normal mind is. Also, unlike the body that is fully formed at birth, the mind is born rudimentary. We have to build it, and until we do, it stays underdeveloped. So an abnormality is not a distortion of the norm but an insufficiency of development to the level required to function.
It is naturally considered that the mind is part of a physical existence we cannot see or measure. When we failed, we accepted it as ‘unfixable’ and the mentally or emotionally distressed person as ill, causing them to function at a lower level of competence. Yet, this describes anyone because anyone can be placed in a situation where, no matter how well rounded, they are out of their element. No one is immune, the rich as well as the poor, the erudite as well and the inexperienced, the saint as well as the sinner. Statistics reveal that one in ten people will suffer severe depression in their lifetime. Prescriptions for antidepressants are skyrocketing, going from 2.72 million in 1993 to 7.8 million in 2000 to triple that number today… in a population of 40 million. Does this sound like something that can happen only to those few very disturbed people? …or everyone?
Mental “illness” is thus easier to heal than is physical illness. With physical illness, somethig has gone wrong. With mental illness, something has not yet gone right. The potential is always there to rise to fruition.
Real Mental Strength can be reached… by everyone. But we have to look where it exists and use tools that can reach that place. The examination must be directed at the understanding and feeling base. The prescription is deductive logic and the provision of rational insights. These are not physical tools. They are metaphysical tools. The body does not have to be physically examined for the mind to be reachable. These tools are applied by discussion and, therefore, effective even through mental communication as we offer at our facilities.
It is axiomatic that what is not reachable is not fixable. What is not reachable physically is only not fixable physically. Thus, mental Health is not fixable physically. But it is fixable. We just have to fix it using non-physical measures and non-physical tools.
The tool is understanding. The measure is the recognition of the mind as distinct and superior to visible structures that undergo continuous and consummate change. The formula for reaching this is not difficult. In this website, we present it as a simple journey divided into nineteen discussions. You will be amazed at how you will see reality and yourself after you are finished. And you will want to view them again and again, just for reinforcement.
Mental Health is not a quality we possess naturally. It is one we must nurture and build through a great range of experiences in a great variety of conditions. With it, we can enjoy success in how we manage life, relate to others, and feel within ourselves. Without it, or without stability in it, we can fail and endure Mental Distress when life is disturbing, people demanding, or our judgment challenged.
Mental health is just that, mental health, not the treatment of mental disease. But that is how we have been led to see it. Common belief suggests that the mind matures in pace with the body and that any emotional or mental immaturity is an illness or disorder. This is NOT TRUE! The mind or emotions mature at a pace determined by the enormity of the stresses and depth of perception a person has. And, yes, disease can interfere with that pace of maturation. But it is not the only cause, and certainly not the most prevalent. Only a small fraction results from disease.
Therefore, seeking mental health does not mean that you have a problem; it means you have a desire. In fact, it is the whole struggle of life, the need to stay abreast of its demands, consistently. Good Mental Health is your Right. You will learn here how to build it and keep it secure in a world of turmoil and inconsistency.
You may be a parent of an adolescent or young adult. You may be a manager of a unit in business, or a supervisor of others in a legal, social, or medical setting. Leadership is not the ability to push, punish, or even support other peolple who are showing limitations in how the manage life. It is not the expression of love so those who look to you for guidance will feel less threatened by your expectations. Instead, it is the opportunity to inspire passion and accountability in those you are responsible for leading.
What, therefore, do you need in order to lead effectively? You need to have the courage to go where those less prepared people are afraid to venture and be able to adapt creatively when conditions change. You must be able to understand their fears and limitations. Finally, you must be able to inspire them to reach for their highest potential and have the passion to take over and do more with themselves.
By learning to appreciate change in every area of life, knowing how to examine it and understand its nuances, you can provide your charges with a better understanding of what they do not yet know. By knowing how to analyze their fears and limitations, you can inspire them to believe in themselves and know so they can do rather than doing in order to please you or avoid displeasing you. This is what you will learn here.
The human being achieves by using mental strength. Unlike lower life forms that rely on instinct for survival, the human being can think. We assess conditions before we act. We look at the invisible variables that have CHANGED or are CHANGING the conditions we face. We use that strength of cognition to create solutions. Yes, we need physical strengths to apply those solutions. And, yes, we can augment our physical strengths with material, social, or chemical enhancements. But, deep within, we need mental strength to allow us to achieve. Unlike physical strengths, mental strength is not an inherited quality. We have to build and energize it. We initially learned to energize it with the strength of a Self-Image built on value systems that can easily be destroyed when conditions change. We need to learn to energize it from a Self-Image built on metaphysical or spiritual values that cannot be destroyed by change or physical catastrophes.
If we learn to accept change as a de facto part of life and to be happy and content, not when the world stabilizes, but while it is still unstable, we can go forward even into unknown territory without fear but with the confidence that we know, and when we do not know, that we will create new understanding.
To feel lost, lonely, deserted, inadequate, or unimportant is the most devastating condition anyone can endure. Anyone will sacrifice even physical life to stop the pain of feeling insignificant or being seen as a failure. Therefore, anyone will go to great lengths to protect that inner state from being trampled, ridiculed, or emptied. Sometimes, the efforts we make trying to prevent, hide, or dismiss those feelings can cause severe problems themselves.
Alcohol, drugs, gambling, sexual promiscuity, porn, internet games and social networks can give this, and become an addiction if used too often, too easily, or too intensely. Aggression, hostility, control can offer these options and become toxic when used too readily, too often, or too intensely. Conciliation, accommodation, submission can give them but these too can become pathological when used excessively. Then, we only see the problems our attempts at saving self have caused. And we usually focus on fixing THAT.
Drinking does not cause Mental Turmoil. Neither do drugs or gambling. They are the result of Mental Turmoil, or Instability, or Fragility. They may cause physical impairment that compromises both perception and expression, and so worsen the mental turmoil that exists. And their removal can reveal the unmanaged Mental Turmoil they were hiding for too long. But they do not cause it. Therefore, stopping them does not heal the anguish or miraculously build the Mental Strength. That must be done primarily.
Therefore to heal the human spirit is to rebuild, regain, or redefine Mental Strength and make it Stable. This is the promise of the discussions we offer. They give you an insight and a formula so you can pull yourself up if you are down and move forward if you are already out of your rut. Then, you can fill that emptiness from within and change old habits because you feel good rather than hope to feel good after you have succeeded in changing an old habit (a contradiction since you need to feel good in order to change the habit).
Chemicals can facilitate a temporary dissociation from the stresses of reality. Regardless of source, prescription or illegal, all chemicals have a similar effect. The main difference is that prescription chemicals are prescribed in metered quantities and regular intervals. Illegal chemicals and alcohol are not bad in themselves as they were, at some time, prescribed. Alcohol has always been with us. Freud once considered cocaine to be the wonder drug. The effect of these chemicals is that they both facilitate a dissociation of psyche from the stress and offer a pleasurable or manageable experience through the stimulation of one or more sensory system of the body. Nonetheless, just as they can stimulate one sensory system to produce a pleasurable stress, it must be recognized that they can evoke unpleasant stresses from other sensory systems or even from the same ones if the amount consumed is inappropriate.
Anything that promises freedom from the discomfort of any stress can be attractive. The decision to experience that state is a rational one that anyone can make. The decision to experience it repeatedly with little regard for the side effects or of the limitations it encourages, however, is determined by a rationale that arises from an impoverished, distressed, or fragile psyche. This is true whether the object that facilitates the temporary release and which becomes the object of addiction is a drug, an activity, or another person.
Biological dependency is a reality. We already know that the organ systems continually adjust their needs and outputs to stay in balance with each other. We also know that, if one system begins to malfunction, others will adjust in order to maintain the balance. This is true even if the malfunction of one or more systems is caused by a chemical. Thus the whole body is distorted to be enabled to function with the chemical. If the chemical is suddenly withdrawn, the function of the adjusted system will now be inappropriate to normal conditions, and stress results, a condition known as detoxing or “jonesing”. Sometimes this stress in the return to normalcy is so severe that it can induce serious illness and pain. Of course, the simplest recourse is to resume the use of the chemical just to relieve the stress its withdrawal causes. This perpetuates the biological dependency.
Almost invariably, when I interview a person who claims to be addicted to a substance (from food to drugs or alcohol), an activity (from partying to gambling or sex), or another person (from attachment to codependency), they reveal that they are choosing to have some gratification they feel they deserve. When I search further, they reveal that they do not always seek cheap sources of gratification. They do this when they feel they have lost personal power as in being overwhelmed by responsibilities or expectations. This can happen if life is too burdensome relative to the resources they have for facing it, or if the resources are too limited relative to the demands of an ordinary life. They may even describe the influence of others to be the reason they choose to participate in the cheap gratification. But this is relative to their personal need for companionship at that time, a different indication of depleted personal power.
Prometheum Institute sees an addictive behaviour as simply the established tendency to seek gratification when we are unable to experience it through self recognition. So this can be a chemical, alcohol, or any activity that satisfies the senses including food, sex, play, or social activity. Some scientists associate that feeling of gratification with the release of endorphins. It does not mean that endorphins cause the addiction. It means that endorphins are the conduits for the sensory stimuli. Usually it becomes an addictive pursuit because there is both a higher need to retreat and a lower choice of options for retreat. Thus, we see that an addictive behaviour is the result of inadequate personal power. Therefore, to abstain from the gratification without first developing personal power is a sure way to defeat. To replace personal power with power from fellowship or attachment to another person is replacing one addiction by another that is no less demanding. At Prometheum Institute, we see that, even though a person with an addictive behaviour has successfully controlled the habit, that person will still need the guidance to develop a greater depth of self-worth. With that, a higher purpose is reached and the attraction to artificial treats is less necessary and less embraced. This is the full thrust of the Understanding Change technique we use.
We do not offer solutions. Nor do we presume that we have the better idea. What we do is stimulate you to see life from a cognitive position and to see self as more than a body with feelings. We show you that self is really a mind or soul with a logically determined mandate to grow using life’s challenges as the food for personal erudition. So we do not give solutions; we show you how to build solutions. You learn that, though it seems like poison for the body, change is really food for the soul; though stagnancy or the easy road is rest for the body, it is really poison for the soul. This is the Understanding Change process that we use here.